{"id":623,"date":"2015-03-12T21:18:51","date_gmt":"2015-03-12T21:18:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/pressbooks.ccconline.org\/man4030-org-leadership\/chapter\/12-7-developing-your-personal-communication-skills\/"},"modified":"2023-05-19T19:22:22","modified_gmt":"2023-05-19T19:22:22","slug":"12-7-developing-your-personal-communication-skills","status":"publish","type":"chapter","link":"https:\/\/pressbooks.ccconline.org\/man4030-org-leadership\/chapter\/12-7-developing-your-personal-communication-skills\/","title":{"raw":"Developing Your Personal Communication Skills","rendered":"Developing Your Personal Communication Skills"},"content":{"raw":"
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Learning Objectives<\/h3>\r\n
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  1. Learn how to improve your own listening habits.<\/li>\r\n \t
  2. Learn how to handle personal communications in a career-friendly manner.<\/li>\r\n \t
  3. Learn what communication freezers are and how to avoid them.<\/li>\r\n<\/ol>\r\n<\/div>\r\n
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    Figure 12.20<\/span><\/p>\r\n\"12.7\"<\/a>\r\n

    Communication can be formal or informal as seen here.<\/p>\r\n\r\n

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    By being sensitive to the errors outlined in this chapter and adopting active listening skills, you may increase your communication effectiveness, increasing your ability to carry out the managerial functions of planning, organizing, leading, and controlling. The following are additional tools for helping you increase your communication effectiveness.<\/p>\r\n\r\n

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    Ten Ways to Improve Your Listening Habits<\/h4>\r\n
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    1. Start by stopping<\/em>. Take a moment to inhale and exhale quietly before you begin to listen. Your job as a listener is to receive information openly and accurately.<\/li>\r\n \t
    2. Don\u2019t worry about what you\u2019ll say when the time comes<\/em>. Silence can be a beautiful thing.<\/li>\r\n \t
    3. Join the Sender\u2019s team<\/em>. When she pauses, summarize what you believe she has said. \u201cWhat I\u2019m hearing is that we need to focus on marketing as well as sales. Is that correct?\u201d Be attentive to physical as well as verbal communications. \u201cI hear you saying that we should focus on marketing. But the way you\u2019re shaking your head tells me the idea may not really appeal to you\u2014is that right?\u201d<\/li>\r\n \t
    4. Don\u2019t multitask while listening<\/em>. Listening is a full-time job. It\u2019s tempting to multitask when you and the Sender are in different places, but doing that is counterproductive. The human mind can only focus on one thing at a time. Listening with only half your brain increases the chances that you\u2019ll have questions later, requiring more of the Speaker\u2019s time. (And when the speaker is in the same room, multitasking signals a disinterest that is considered rude.)<\/li>\r\n \t
    5. Try to empathize with the Sender\u2019s point of view<\/em>. You don\u2019t have to agree; but can you find common ground?<\/li>\r\n \t
    6. Confused? Ask questions<\/em>. There\u2019s nothing wrong with admitting you haven\u2019t understood the Sender\u2019s point. You may even help the Sender clarify the Message.<\/li>\r\n \t
    7. Establish eye contact<\/em>. Making eye contact with the speaker (if appropriate for the culture) is important.<\/li>\r\n \t
    8. What is the goal of this communication<\/em>? Ask yourself this question at different points during the communication to keep the information flow on track. Be polite. Differences in opinion can be the starting point of consensus.<\/li>\r\n \t
    9. It\u2019s great to be surprised<\/em>. Listen with an open mind, not just for what you want<\/strong> to hear.<\/li>\r\n \t
    10. Pay attention to what is not said<\/em>. Does the Sender\u2019s body language seem to contradict her Message? If so, clarification may be in order.<\/li>\r\n<\/ol>\r\n
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      Adapted from information in Barrett, D. J. (2006). Leadership communication<\/em>. New York: McGraw-Hill\/Irwin; Improving verbal skills. Retrieved July 2, 2008, from http:\/\/www.itstime.com\/aug97.htm<\/a>; Ten tips: Active Listening from Communication at work. (2007, June 4). Retrieved July 2, 2008, from http:\/\/communication.atwork-network.com\/2007\/06\/04\/ten-tips-active-listening<\/a>.<\/p>\r\n\r\n<\/div>\r\n<\/div>\r\n

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      Career-Friendly Communications<\/h2>\r\n

      Communication can occur without your even realizing it. Consider the following: Is your e-mail name professional? The typical convention for business e-mail contains some form of your name. While an e-mail name like \u201cLazyGirl\u201d or \u201cDeathMonkey\u201d may be fine for chatting online with your friends, they may send the wrong signal to individuals you e-mail such as professors and prospective employers.<\/p>\r\n\r\n